You’re Not the Problem: Somatic Healing and Nervous System Tools for Lasting Change
In this episode of the Wild Enthusiasm for Living podcast, I sit down with somatic practitioner and author Lori Montre to explore a topic that feels more relevant than ever: how our nervous system shapes our ability to heal, grow, and truly enjoy our lives. Inspired by her new book You’re Not the Problem, this conversation opened up such an honest and compassionate perspective on why so many of us feel stuck, and what’s actually going on beneath the surface.
We talk about what somatic healing really is and why the body plays such a crucial role in transformation. Lori shares how our nervous system acts as the foundation for everything we try to create, and why relying on mindset alone often isn’t enough. This conversation really highlights how patterns like burnout, overwhelm, emotional eating, overworking, and people-pleasing aren’t personal failures, but intelligent adaptations from a system that’s trying to protect us.
One of the things that stood out most to me is Lori’s framework of safety, capacity, and energy. We explore how these three elements work together and why building a sense of internal safety is the starting point for any lasting change. I also loved how we talked about capacity not as something fixed, but something that can grow over time when we stop pushing ourselves past our limits and start working with our bodies instead of against them.
We also get into practical ways to begin building that relationship with your body, starting with something as simple, and powerful, as checking in with yourself throughout the day. Lori shares a couple of somatic tools that you can begin using right away, while also reminding us that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Your body has its own wisdom, and learning to listen to it is where everything begins.
This episode felt like such an important reminder that you are not broken, and you are not the problem. If you’ve been feeling stuck, burned out, or frustrated with yourself, I think this conversation will offer you a new way of understanding what’s really going on, and a much more supportive path forward.
More about Lori:
Lori is a somatic healing practitioner, author of You're Not the Problem, and creator of the Freedom Formula (a nervous system–based roadmap for sustainable behavior change).
Lori's message is simple… and life-changing: you are not the problem.
Your patterns aren't proof you're broken — they're proof you adapted. And the best part? You can adapt again… this time to return to you.
